Category Archives: Welcome to our home!

First blog. Introducing Carol at Apache Wells, her medical condition, request to send her words of encouragement.

For This We Thank You

To Employer, Co-workers, Family & Friends,

You have made it possible for us to have a home. You have provided honest work and honest pay. With your help, we have warmed our mobile through the winter months and cooled it during the hot summer days. We have each other. We have food, shelter, and clothing. Our dogs and cats are cared for.

You have been with us through years of medical appointments, hospitalizations, prolonged sufferings and life-threatening times. You have cut and carried firewood, cleaned our home, care-taked, replaced roofs, repaired vehicles, loaned equipment, made donations, provided transportation, and taken risks. You have spoken up, reached out, reached in your pockets, made time, made loans, respected, trusted, prayed, encouraged, and shared your talents and resources. You have held us when we cried and joined us in our laughter. You have given countless gifts of worldly and spiritual value.

We are humbled. We are blessed.

We are inspired to do the same for others.

For this we thank you.

Jeff & Carol
Apache Wells, Arizona.


Welcome to our home!

That is my wife, Carol Jarvis-Kirkendall, way off in the distance, in front of our single-wide mobile in Apache Wells, Arizona.  Our Doberman Angel is next to her, and our smaller mixed-breed Sparky is off to the left.  Carol is happiest with her hands in the dirt, accompanied by our four-legged family.

Carol can no longer engage in the kinds of activity she did three years ago when I took this photo. She has required 24/7 assistance almost continually for the past twelve years.  She has endured  chronic pain in one part of her body or another, and most of her medical and psychological challenges are the direct result of damage done to  her body from being physically and sexually abused as a child and young woman.   She nearly died three times this past fall of 2011.

While in fragile health and increasingly dependent, Carol endures as a force of nature, a poster-great-grandmother for “Living gracefully is the best revenge.” She inspires me to strive to be the best man I can be, and she will forever provoke my wonder that in spite of years of suffering hideous abuse, she grew into a person of uncommon kindness who persists in finding the best in people.

As a pioneering clinic director, private practicing therapist, author, lecturer, and as a mother, Carol has been a trusted healing influence in the lives of countless families recovering from childhood sexual abuse for over thirty years.  She is my hero.

Because Carol often now has trouble remembering her great accomplishments in life, I am asking readers for notes of encouragement or congratulations which would be of help in her healing and recovery.  Please, if you are so moved,  “Leave a reply.”

Many blessings to you and your families.


Jeffery Kirkendall